Things to do even long after you say “I do”

Like most couples, you may find yourself pressured by the demands of daily life: work, children, finances, household chores, commitments to extended family. When the pressure is on, it's good to think back to what brought the two of you together in the first place.



Couples can easily take each other for granted, especially after being together for a long time. This doesn't mean the love is fading, but it does mean that there's a lack of effort. People tend to get lazy in relationships after a while, when they feel comfortable and safe. Though it's good to feel comfortable in a relationship, your relationship isn't safe if you're lazy.



Sure, nurturing your relationship isn't necessarily urgent, however, it doesn't mean it isn't important. So make time for regular daily chat. Turn off the TV and cell phone, and sit together for a short time - uninterrupted and face-to-face, every day - to talk about stuff: what happened at work; what you saw on TV; what Tom said about his date with Susie; or perhaps share something that bothered you, or maybe made you smile.



Tell each other the little details as well as the big news. Focusing on each other for as little as fifteen minutes a day can make a huge difference. You will both feel appreciated and heard.



Meet at the park for a walk, treat each other to a movie, have a bubble bath, have brunch at a cozy café, steal each other from work and have a quiet lunch, rendezvous after work for a drink and an appetizer before dinner, commute together if at all possible, dance in your kitchen.



Whether you're dining out or having a picnic dinner on the living room floor, make it special. It doesn't have to be expensive, just generous. The anticipation of a planned evening or activity can be fun and exciting even if (especially if) you've been together for a long time.



By making a date, you'll set aside the special time your relationship deserves and consistently rediscover the romance that started it all.



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